“What is the sign of a friend? Is it that he tells you his secret sorrows? No, it is that he tells you his secret joys. Many people will confide their secret sorrows to you, but the final mark of intimacy is when they share their secret joys with you.”—Oswald Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest (source)
This is the mark of true femininity: true beauty. It is an essence as much as it is a mentality. It does not depend on externalities or material things. Her outward beauty is nothing more than an extension to what is already true of her inner self—an expression of her style, not her value. She deals with insecurity by making much of Christ because only He is the source of her identity and the essence of her security. She trusts that He defines her rather than requiring the fickle affirmation of others. True femininity is uninterested in the world’s approval, deaf to their commentary. Her eyes fixed and ears attuned heavenward—interested solely in the guidance & pleasure of her maker.
Joy lingers in her path because she leads a life of kindness, intelligence, and confidence. She is genuine, and she is approachable. She extends herself to others and lives in a manner that invites you to know her. She uses her influence to encourage and inspire. Her life is a banner of integrity. Her voice is one that calls for equality and justice because the more she discovers His heart, the more she resembles it.
True femininity is never accidentally embodied. It’s always a choice, and it’s a worthy one because it’s contagious. It’s not about trying harder, but about accepting what has already been spoken over you—peace instead of chaos, love instead of hate, service instead of vanity. True femininity will manifest when we stop trying to prove ourselves and instead embrace the truth that has redeemed and repurposed our lives. Once we are satisfied in the source of beauty, there will be an evident joyous freedom in the way we hold ourselves & treat others. When your life is punctuated by the truth of Christ, others prosper—for your beauty is not your own, but a living picture of His nature and an invitation to know the fullness of His freedom.
“Books are the perfect entertainment: no commercials, no batteries, hours of enjoyment for each dollar spent. What I wonder is why everybody doesn’t carry a book around for those inevitable dead spots in life.”—Stephen King (via observando)